the other woman

WARNING:
the post you are about to read is highly personal, extremely controversial, and .. well you may just hate it. So, that being said, if you're some bitter ex girlfriend, you've ever been cheated on, take things the wrong way, or simply have some sort of beef with me. STOP READING NOW. cool...

"the other woman". used a lot when describing a girl who "devotes her entire life in being a homewrecker." Or "someone who whores herself around without morals." Having friends subject to this verbal abuse, and being a personal victim of it myself, makes a person really think. My hope with this is that maybe somewhere, some girl will read this, and understand what it feels like to be this other woman. Maybe they'll strongly disagree, and stick with their own opinions. But this is for a friend who gave everything she had, fell in way too deep, and was permanently scarred. This is for me. This is for you.
It isn't always fair to judge someone based on the fact that they sometime live their lives against your personal belief. Each one of us will never know what someone else is truly going through. So please, if you're interested, take this time to finally understand.


About a week ago, I received an anonymous question that didn't exactly hurt my feelings, but made me realize how clueless some people can be. The question asked me why I "insisted on pursuing boys that are off the market?" At first, it made me laugh. My first thought was "Do I really INsist?" Which leads me to my first point. Women who find themselves involved with unavailable men, DO NOT DO THIS ON PURPOSE. It just bewilders me that people out there believe that it is something of a personal goal to fall for someone who will never be with them. HA! right because, life would be too easy if they were available, we'd actually be happy for once if they were available, oh and we wouldn't be putting ourselves through sleepless tearful nights ALONE, if they WERE AVAILABLE. I mean come on how could we?!
Now, am I completely denying the fact that it is a tad bit wrong to try and break up a relationship. No. I am doing nothing of the sort. There are women out there who do devious, horrible things to get the man they want. But that is out of our control. I mean we could control them, by throwing them in the crazy bin or arresting them, or restraining them.. but what do you want me to do?
Anyways.
I guess the only way to hopefully help you understand, is to open my book, and let you in. Perhaps I'll save my story for another blog, when I have time to sit down for hours, and revisit the past. It will be hard for me to post, and keep an unbiased view with it all. I also don't wish to exploit anyone from my past. Please note now, that I do not blame anyone for what happened to me. I do sometimes only blame myself, but I try to remind myself that everyone plays a part, no matter how small, it counts.

I think something people need to understand is, we don't get ourselves into messes like that with the intention of hurting someone. We simply fall in like with someone, someone we see ourselves being happy with, someone we think could be the one. We never try to fall in like with a guy we know is taken, it'd be a waste of time. Sometimes, we fall for them before we even know it can never be. Most times, we fall for them, knowing they're unavailable, because WE FELL FOR THEM.
So to end this blog here for now:

Why DO we continue to "pursue" them?
Have you ever had that feeling, you know the one that tells you this may be your chance at happiness? What do you do? Do you let it go? Because you know it may be wrong? Or Do you take it, because it may be the only one you'll get? WHAT IF...
This can relate to any personal experience, not just the subject of this blog.

What are your thoughts?